beats audio headphones review We don’t even have sex once a month
It’s a part of yourself you give to them that only they can have. It’s probably the ‘I love you’ part that becomes the bonding agent.
When this was not happening in my life, I began to brainwash myself that I didn’t need that and in my mind started seeing my husband as a close friend and room mate who happened to sleep next to me.
This seemed to be fine for him as he hates it if I make the first move or suggest that we should talk about the problem and by distancing myself, I do not attempt to discuss the situation.
It’s at a point now that if he does make an advance, no matter how I feel I don’t reject him as I am always hopeful that maybe things will get better and if I reject him now then maybe he’ll never try and be intimate again.
We have attempted marriage counselling, but he clamped up and lost interest.
I know that we have to deal with it but even getting him to the point where he needs to agree to see someone or talk about it is a mission on its own.
A close friend of ours, who also is a marriage counsellor tried to speak to him in confidence but to no avail.
I am at my wits’ end. I am also petrified that if the opportunity arose that I would not have the will to be with someone else.
I am desperately in need of emotional resuscitation and I am not getting it from my husband.
How do I deal with this?I’m probably being pessimistic, but I don’t see how you’re going to keep this marriage going.
The gross disparity between your sexual drives is not very likely to be overcome.
You see, no one can give you pills to damp your sex drive down. Can anything be done to improve his lack of sex drive? Well, the first thing is to work out why he’s like this.
Women the world over who have a lower sex drive than their partners, usually just ‘let’ their partners have sex with them even if they don’t always feel like it.
But when a bloke’s not interested, he is frequently not willing to try to get in the mood or to indulge in love play to satisfy the woman which is something he could do even if he doesn’t want intercourse.
So, you could have some counselling yourself, I suppose.
But this would be of limited use, since all it could help you do is to come to terms with a virtually sexless marriage or encourage you to leave it.
If your man would go for help, that would be a big bonus, but it doesn’t sound like he will.
It might be possible to persuade him if he thought he would lose you otherwise. But no one could promise that this would put everything right.
At only 30 years of age, I suppose therefore that this comes down to you deciding whether you can go through life without sex or not.
And even if everything about the relationship is great in every other way, this is quite a lot to ask of yourself.