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‘Coming’ isn’t that easy, if you’re a woman. Nearly all men can climax without difficulty, but women just aren’t built that way. Unfortunately, not everyone knows this all important fact even in 2015.
This is partly because books, films and most of all internet porn paint a picture in which today’s females are hot and raring to go, and in an almost constant state of sexual ecstasy.
This inaccurate portrayal can lead to today’s teens and 20 somethings believing that there’s something wrong with them if they can’t climax to order. The truth, however, is that most of them are absolutely normal.
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Interestingly, only a generation ago many doctors believed that a high proportion of the female population simply couldn’t climax at all.
Why did they think this way? Simply because most of them had had little or no training in sexual medicine.
Also, the majority of them were so embarrassed about sex themselves that they tried to avoid discussing it with their patients.
Furthermore, since women don’t need to climax in order to conceive, most doctors didn’t rate the importance of the female orgasm very highly.
New attitudeFortunately in this century, most medics have a very different attitude. This is largely because they’re now familiar with the results of sexual studies conducted by American researchers Kinsey, Masters and Johnson, Shere Hite and others.
In addition, the last 20 years have seen a number of sexual surveys conducted with large samples of people through newspapers and magazines. Indeed, our own organisation the Medical Information Service has designed many of these.
The results of these surveys have taken the lid off the sex life of the great British public.
Now we know that virtually any woman can climax and indeed have multiple climaxes if the circumstances of her life are right. And these circumstances usually include having a caring, understanding partner who’s knowledgeable about sex and who uses that knowledge to help her relax and to reach orgasm.
As we’ve already said, orgasm is a much more automatic response for men than it is for women. And it would be true to say that in very many males an ability to climax doesn’t necessarily have to be linked to feelings of love and romance.
But women more commonly find their sexual confidence and competence blossoms when they feel loved and appreciated.
Of course nowadays there are young females who set out to have as much uncommitted and uncomplicated sex as young men. But they’re still in the minority.
But to understand more about the female orgasm, let’s go back to the start of a woman’s sexual life.
The beginningsA lot of young women are worried about their lack of ability to climax. But the fact is, unlike males, most females have to learn to reach orgasm.
Our research shows that most younger women do not manage to climax until some considerable time after they have started sexual activity. Moreover, when they do ‘come’ for the very first time, they do so in a variety of ways.
These days, most sex therapists believe that if you can’t climax (or don’t climax easily), it’s a good idea to start by practising on your own.
This may seem obvious, but many women, even today, feel inhibited about self love and can’t help feeling that it isn’t something they should be doing.
But masturbating helps you to learn exactly which pressures and rhythms you need in order to bring you to orgasm. So, it can be really useful.
Once you have learned to climax easily on your own, you can then show your partner exactly what you need in order to make you come.
Of course, this may feel embarrassing at first. But the first step in fulfilment with a partner is to communicate your feelings to him or her and also to communicate how you like your body to be touched.
Some women, incidentally, find achieving orgasm much easier with the help of a vibrator. And nowadays there are several excellent online mail order businesses, run by women for women, which sell good quality sex aids that really work.
They also sell lingerie, erotic literature and lubrication. They are equally helpful to gay and heterosexual women.